3 ways anxiety can affect a relationship
Updated: Apr 26, 2019
It Robs You of Joy
A deep, meaningful relationship with another person should bring you joy. Whether it is intimate or platonic, feeling a sense of safety, security, and freedom within that relationship is essential to experiencing joy. Feeling fearful, tense, and on edge prevents you from feeling this way, so it can be very difficult to feel comfortable in a relationship when you are in the throes of anxiety. Likewise, frequent and chronic anxiety only furthers the negative feedback loop in your brain, and that can make it difficult to be joyful.
It Undermines Connection
The fear and worry that come along with anxiety can break down the connection that you and your partner have. This is because when our thoughts are so focused on what could happen or what might happen, it becomes very difficult to be present in the moment and pay attention to what actually is happening. In the same way, the negativity and racing thoughts that you are experiencing can leave you feeling overwhelmed and emotionally flooded. This can cause you to withdraw even more and become emotionally unavailable for your partner.
It Often Leads to Panic or Procrastination
Anxiety and negative thought processes often make it difficult to express your true feelings to others. You may even have difficulty setting healthy boundaries if expressing your needs makes you uncomfortable. In response to this discomfort, you may subconsciously postpone the experience of sharing your feelings, or you may feel a sense of urgency to talk with your partner immediately when a break might be more beneficial. Bottling up your feelings can lead to more anxiety, creating a cyclical pattern of avoidance and increasing anxiety.
It Doesn't Allow you to be Vulnerable
Sometimes it is necessary to take risks in relationships. No one likes feeling vulnerable, but practicing vulnerability is a key aspect of deepening your emotional connection with another person. Anxious thoughts and perpetual worry often get the best of those who suffer with uncontrolled anxiety. As a result, they avoid situations in which they feel vulnerable, missing out on key opportunities to grow their relationships with others. In learning how to get more comfortable feeling vulnerable with others, you can begin to learn how to beat anxiety.
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